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Last updated on May 5, 2021

Listen up!  Trust yourself.  If you think that you have been bullied, then don't brush this thought aside.  If you think that you have been bullied, tell yourself, "I think that I have been bullied."  Then get yourself even more familiar with what bullying is.  Listen up, my friends, if you can answer, "Yes!"  to the following questions, then you might have actually been bullied.  No!  It wasn't all in your head.  If you can answer, "Yes!" to these questions, then take that us a sign of potential bullying behavior.   For workplace bullying, this would be in the workplace setting. 

1.  Were rumors spread about you?

2.  Were you insulted? 

3.  Were you unreasonable excluded?

4.  Were you criticized without justification and without a solution? 

5.  Were you deliberately prevented from moving forward through the company's promotional paths?

6.  Were you undermined, and this could have occurred either in front of your colleagues or in secret?

7.  Did someone take credit for your work?

8.  Did someone blame you for their shortcomings?

9.  Did someone withhold necessary information from you to the point that this made it difficult for you to do your job in an effective manner?

10.   Were you denied training opportunities?

11.  Were you given a heavier work load as everyone else in hopes that it made your job harder for you or haivng you "fail"?

If you answer, "Yes!" to even one of these questions, then you might have been bullied.  If this is at work, then you might have been bullied at work.  It is OK to trust your feelings or your instincts about being bullied.

Now, what should you do?  What are your options if you think that you have been bullied?  Well, you could tell your boss if your boss is not the bully.  You could tell the person above your boss if you think that your boss is partaking in bullying behavior.    If your job has  anti-bullying campaigns as part of its workplace culture, you could talk to those individuals who help to run these campaigns. Perhaps that would be someone in human resources. If there is information about bullying in the employee handbook, you could follow some of the directions that it gives you. 

Yet, what if the bully is your boss, and you work in a small medical office?  It's you, your boss, and perhaps some other healthcare personnel in the same office.   What if you feel like talking to your boss won't resolve things because they are the bully? What if you feel like there's nowhere that you can turn to air out how you have been bullied?

At that stage, you might need to file a formal complaint.  If you're part of a bigger company, a formal complaint might be filed with human resources.  If you're just part of a small company, then that complaint could be filed with  a licensing board.   You could also reach out to anti-bullying organizations to see if they could help.  

Also, look into the difference between illegal harassment and bullying because illegal harassment might be more punishable under the law.  In the United States, certain states have passed legislation to address bullying in the workplace, but this legislation might only apply to a certain category of workers.  For instance, the Tennessee workplace act help prevent bullying in companies run by the government.  However, many states do not have formal procedures in place to discourage bullying.  However, they do have laws preventing workers from illegal harassment based upon their religion, national origin, or race. 

Three "legal" things:  First, either a male or a female could consider themselves to be a mother.  My job is to serve and not to judge.  Second, although I am a family physician, I am not your doctor or therapist.   Please see your and your child's doctor.  Third, the information presented here is for educational purposes only.  It does not constitute professional medical advice.